We are here to love, learn and grow with each other. Sacred partnership is a commitment to our evolutionary nature.
We are in relationship at all times with all things.
In order to have a conscious partnership or sacred partnership with any thing we must first establish a conscious relationship with our selves. Intimacy with the nature of life comes with a willingness to transform and learn from the ancestral suffering that has been held in our cellular body. Sacred partnership is vital to the evolution of human consciousness.
Buddha realized 4 truths when he awakened.
1. Human life consists of Suffering
2. There is an end to suffering
3. The end of suffering is the removal of the causes of suffering
4. The eight fold path of yoga – a recipe for liberation.
For me sacred partnership began along with the study and practice of yoga. At this same time in my early 20’s I was also invited to frequently attend sweat lodge ceremony. Both of these practices over the years helped me peal away layers of worn out stories and beliefs and brought me closer to the ground, closer to my breath and at home in my heart instead of being lost in my mind. Eventually I realized that these rituals were a way of making love with Creator or Source energy – the creative force that governs all life. Any powerful and effective practice within the field of health and wellness is grounded in science and taught through life experience from teacher to student. My intention in learning yoga and participating in sweat lodge ceremony was to deepen my relationship with my self and life’s mysterious ways. I knew from the results of how I felt when I experienced these practices that I was more alive, more clear and more aligned somehow with the natural forces of life. So I worked on my self for me. Quite the opposite of the ways I had learned to escape my body, yoga and group ritual practices remind us to be present and listen to our bodies as well as each other.
My real learning began when I decided it was time to share a deeper connection with another. All of my patterns of ego and what I thought to be true was challenged by the women in my life as I opened my self up to transform ego into respect and service to others. Through this process of healing my greatest helpers along side these women in my life were the ocean and my breath.
Today I can gratefully claim that the search is over, that my walks beside is my divine life partner. Every relationship I have experienced has prepared me to live in right relationship with all things through this communion with my beloved.
What I have learned is that sacred partnership starts with our selves, with an intimate relationship with source through our own breath.
Life is no longer about getting more but letting more. The search is not about what we can get from any relationship but rather what we can give and how we can serve. I believe we came into this life with everything we need. A new born baby is the magnificent technology of perfection, just as is each women to give life, here to express in form and enjoy the process of life. Fundamentally we need each other to thrive.
To be in right relationship is to give back for what we share and receive. In the culture I grew up in we forgot how to give back. I learned to be a consumer, to take what I needed and throw away what I had used. What has brought me more pleasure than anything in this life is the opportunities that life brings to help others breathe and awaken to their true nature and gradually feel more comfortable with true power. We are made of light, the same particles as the stars and we came here to shine. Many relationships are a misuse of power. In the west we are not taught right relationship, we are taught to compete in a world that is a survival of the fittest. We can not just keep taking from our Mother or soon she will be done with us and simply shake us off. When we learn to garden we learn the cycle of the seasons, we learn that we must till the soil before we plant seeds and that the seeds must be cared for, weeded and nourished before we reap the harvest of our relationship. What we don’t use we give back to the soil and what should not be thrown back in the soil is recycled.
Our emotions move like water. In a sacred partnership it is essential to communicate; to listen to one another and express our feelings and emotions – Communication with Spirit otherwise known as the power of ‘prayer’ cycles in the same natural way. We must listen to what comes back and how consciousness organizes around our prayers. We must listen for signs and believe in the power of what wants to be born. Reciprocity is not just about forgiveness but also involves a reciprocal relationship of seeing each other’s highest self without our old stories and trauma. This work of clarity and respect in relationship requires an underlying commitment to allow for our humans lives to transform, for our personal expectations and ego to dissolve through self love, personal practice and a deep intimacy with life’s secret ways. We must express what our needs are to each other so that we can meet and have these needs met.
Love is the most misunderstood word in the human language. It is incredibly helpful to understand what our own definition of love is and to communicate this with those we love in order for our needs to be met.
Grandmother Kaariina taught me 2 very powerful tools for relationship, group processing and community. (In my experience with many intentional communities and sacred partnerships that ended these 2 components or tools for communication were missing);
1. The way of council – a circular form of passing the spoken word for all participants to listen, express and be heard.
2. Non Violent Communication – To express and receive communication empathically using the four-part Nonviolent Communication process developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
The greatest gifts I have been given in this life I have received from Spirit including a beloved garden of Eden. The best teachers have reminded me that we are just channels for Spirit to reveal it self more fully and clearly, in all of the wild or calm ways in which it wants to express. The greatest things we can do for each other aside from seeing and loving each others gifts and bringing them into the world together is helping each other peal away that which is covering up what has always been here. The ancient wisdom of the ancestors lives in our bones and the power of the sun in our hearts.
May we all be seen and met fully, may we forgive our selves and let go of our disappointments and our only expectations will be the power of our prayers to manifest heaven on earth for a complete and whole human family, for many generations to come and for all of those who have walked before us.
It is a wonderful pleasure to share in celebration and to be in sweet relation with all of my relations at this time of great transformation and awakening.
Deep Gratitude to all Sacred Partners – May we enjoy our relationships and may our sacred marriage be the fullness of being on earth, of loving each other as our spiritual selves having a human experience. Let our sex be a spiritual practice of our connection with the divine. May we do our own yoga, not someone else’s yoga and may we live our own dream. We came here to manifest it together but let there be spaces in our togetherness.
The relationship we all share with Creator is where it all begins and continues. And when we are all in Sacred Partnership with the earth and all elements that sustain this life we will manifest heaven on earth once again for all sentient beings.
Aho Mitakuye Oyasin
To All My Relations*
St.Teacher Trainer of Conscious Connected Breathing
Founder of BreathWave